Ok, so I think that I'm still getting used to hearing my friends or people I know using "him" or "he" or "Camdin" out loud. It's much different than in print. I'm not sure how long this will take to get used to. And I should really tell my parents about the whole pronoun and name thing. It's hard though, talking to them.
Especially about this subject. I feel as if I should be able to talk about things when I'm ready. I feel as if I should be able to be like "I need you to call me by male pronouns and the name 'Camdin'" and have that be the end of it. Have them say "Ok."
I'd be curious as to how other trans people reacted in this situation. How did you tell your parents to change your name and pronouns? Or better yet, did you tell them? Better still, did they?
It just seems to sting everytime I hear "Caity" or "her" come from their mouths.
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To alter in form or nature; transform.
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I think that you have to remember that some of us are still adjusting to your transition.
Yeah, of course. This entry meant: so am I.
And it's not as easy for some as it is for others right now.
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Hey Camdin,
Usual disclaimers apply, but with my parents, I tried to correct them repetitively and let them know my needs aggressively, but ultimately, it took a great deal of time for them to switch over. I've found it takes a great deal of patience. Look for small improvements and movements. For me, my parents could write my name properly but couldn't say it to my face. That got reeeeeally frustrating. Now they do Riley but screw up the pronouns occasionally. I've since said "You know I'm sorry I was a jerk about that a few years ago. I was impatient and I'm sorry." I also let them know that these days I take it all with a grain of salt. I look for small improvements and attempts, even if there are screwups along the way. I also let them know I love them and I know that they love me, and that I can tell we're making the best of an unusual situation. Hope this helps.
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